WHEN A MAN GETS CARRIED AWAY... ! 

Dafe was a young handsome business man in his late thirties. he had a very lovely wife, Ese who takes very good care of his home and their three kids. They have a good home and lived happily. Before Dafe and Ese got married, Dafe was just a   struggling man. He was  not rich, and barely had enough money for his upkeep. He had to save for quite some time, for his marriage.  After the marriage, that is the wedding ceremony, things began to turn around. God smiled on him and he progressed in his merchandise business by leaps and bond. Before long, he had accumulated so much wealth. 

The marriage, blessed with three lovely children, has brought him joy, peace and comfort, He couldn't wish for a better deal or bargain in life. Life was good and life was worth living.

Money can bring power, comfort and influence. Money is the root of many good things. It also the root of all evil, as the saying goes.  Dafe began  to see things and do things he never saw or did before! He started seeing other women. Yes, he got distracted by other women. Unexplained absence, and late home-coming became the order of the day. By and by he threw caution to the winds, and became deeply engrossed in  flirting around with women of easy virtue. A man's sudden deviation from normal family routine and behaviour cannot remain unnoticed for long. So, Ese his wife, and even their kids, observed the strange behaviour of her husband, and their father, respectively. She became very worried. A threat to her family, her home and her marriage has emerged. To confirm her suspicion she even dreamt about her husband's illicit affairs.

One Sunday evening as they retired to bed, she decided to confront her husband about her fears, over his infidelity. Gently,  she asked him: "why are you flirting around, and cheating on me? Is there anything those women have that I don't have? Dafe  promptly replied: "I don't know what you're talking about. There is no other woman!"  "Who is Kate?", Ese persisted. Although, Dafe was shocked by the fact that his wife knew the name of one of his numerous girlfriends, he controlled himself and said, "there is no other woman and I don't know any kate! Seeing that her husband was not ready to acknowledge his unpleasant and dangerous immoral  and life threatening activities, she let go for the moment. She was still deeply troubled. Cheating and  denial are dangerous red flags (or signals).

Dafe continued his il-concieved dating game! He even raised the tempo. Ese became  so restless that she could not take it anymore. So, a day came when she packed her bags, and moving out of their home she returned to her parents house, leaving her three kids behind for her husband. Her husband  neither showed any remorse for his sins nor showed any regret for the resulting outcome of his wives exit from their home. He felt he was wealthy and could get and bring any woman he wanted into his home. Ese thought that her action will bring her husband to his senses. Unfortunately she was wrong. Time ticked away. Six months passed. There was no positive message or contact with her husband. Time continued to tick away... 

Suddenly Dafe's business Empire began to crumble. So many things began to go wrong!

He became confused! Initially he thought it was just one of those dull moments in his business, but he became alarmed when the dull movements persisted, and became a  permanent feature. Things got so bad that he began to sell his cars and other personal belongings to survive. He tried in vain to figure out what was wrong. All his thoughts and efforts were futile. Even his kids got the message that not long after their mother left their home,  their finances have been on a downward trend. It kept going from bad to worse.  All of the girls he dated while money was flowing, promptly abandoned him. For them, "No money no deal". Even some of his friends and family members began to avoid him. He was no longer the honey, that attracted the bees! How did he got into this state of being broke and struggling again?  From Grace to grass? "How do I  get out of this jam", he pondered! 

One Sunday morning, he went to church, and the following Monday, he went for prayers and counseling. The Minister he met asked him a lot of questions. After hearing his story he took a long look at him, and thought for a while.  Dafe just sat there dejected, looking at the  minister. He prayed in his heart that God will use him to profer solution to his problems. Finally when the minister broke the silence, what he told the Dafe was a complete shock to him! It was a bolt out of the blue. Go back to your wife and  apologize to her, and ask for her forgiveness. Take her back into your home. Dafe was  uneasy and barred his thoughts... "she won't come back to me!", he cried. The minister starred at him for a while and said, "she is still your wife. She will forgive you. Take her and go back with her to your home. Remain faithfully to her . When you've done this, then come and see me after 6 months". 

Off, Dafe  went to see his wife, Ese, her parents, and family, to beg for their forgiveness. His wife's parent  and her family members were  very angry with him and didn't want to see him or speak with him. They told him, in very strong language, to leave their daughter alone. Dafe was   was devastated. Dejected, he went away. He came back again, on another faithful day. This time with some of his family and friends. They  all added their voices, and pleaded with Ese and her family to forgive Dafe, for Ese to go back to her matrimonial home. After a prolonged discussion. They   asked Dafe to promise that he would curtail his excesses if given a second chance. After all said and done, he was given the nod- this was after Ese forgave him and agreed to move back to their home. So, he took his wife and they went back home. The Kids were very excited to see their mother once again, back home,  after what seemed a very long time.

So a happy family reunion and life resumed again, but under a very difficult financial condition. It didn't take long for God to smile on him and on his family once again. In  six months Dafe was back on track again, getting rich and famous. This this time, he doted on his wife. Haven learnt his lessons, he kept away from "those other women". As time went by, he upgraded their home, bought a car for his wife and another car for the church! He had learnt his lessons. "You don't change a winning team".

Now what really happened? Was Ese an influence on her husband's wealth? Was it just fate or coincidence.   or what?  God only, knows... all. Let's keep faith with God and men. We should endeavour to be upright and do the right things, cause we'll never know what will be in store for us when we fly off the edge or go the wrong way. I hope we've  learnt some lessons from this great story!

Stories teach us how to live aright!